My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married almost 10. We have two small children, one still a baby. My husband is a recovering alcoholic and as the pressures of business and family life were getting to him, he began drinking small amounts a few times. His willpower was already weak and he was unhappy with himself for hiding his drinking and not being as involved with his family as he knew he should have. Enter Yaneli. What a stupid name. At least cheat with someone with a better name! || They met at a casino bar, she saw his wedding ring (it’s too tight and he can’t get it off) and proceeded to try to be his fantasy girl. There’s a lot wrong with a 34 year old divorced woman who knowingly starts a relationship with a married man – probably low self-esteem, dysfunctional in relationships, unhealthy self-image, doesn’t believe she deserves better than being someone’s gross little secret – and for whatever reason, she wanted my husband. She took his phone and programmed her number in, and they kissed the very first night. From there she began calling and texting him all the time. He made his fair share of calls and texts to her too, and after a few days, she invited him to her house and they became intimate. || Their affair went on for 20 days until I caught them by looking at the phone bill. They’d had sex and done oral and in total had 6 liaisons together. He says he wore a condom, but I still got tested for STDs and HIV, because who can trust a lying cheater or the slut who has sex with a married man she just met at a bar and doesn’t even know? He broke it off the morning after I found out, and her reaction was to be worried that people at her work would find out. She should be worried, since I opened the casino she works at and still have a lot of high-up connections there. In fact, I know her bosses. But she wasn’t worried about the pain this would cause me, the damage she was helping to do to our family, the suffering my children will have to endure going through a divorce, or the many problems my husband will have as a result of this. All of that is 50% her fault. || She told him by text “Remember to be straight up with me.” Um, excuse me? He’s lying to his WIFE after 14 years together, and you think YOU deserve honesty? After 20 days? Ya, okay. By the way sweetie, he already lied to you, I saw it in the text message he sent you ending the affair. She’s so desperate, she started texting him again a week after he ended things. Apparently she can’t get a man who likes her enough to go public with her, bring her to meet his friends and family, or actually acknowledge that he’s involved with her. She has to settle for someone who’s troubled and only wants to use her to make himself feel better. That’s pathetic and I’m glad I’m not her. The kicker is that on Facebook, she purports to be a Christian. She posts Bible verses all the time and lives a lie to her family and friends. No real Christian would help a man commit adultery. She also lied to everyone she knows, saying that her purse had been stolen out of her sister’s car one night. Only, it was actually stolen out of my husband’s work truck. She left it on the seat at a dive bar in the ghetto she lives in, and someone broke the window and stole it off the seat. We had to pay to replace the window. || Thanks a lot, skank and dear husband. I never thought he’d do this, and everyone who knows him was in shock. It isn’t like him and it’s completely against his character. I know that he’s certainly not a victim here and he’s the one who made vows to me and who owed me fidelity, but if not for her I wouldn’t be in this position. Maybe she thought she was giving him some sort of gift by paying attention to him while his wife was bogged down at home with work and the house and two small children, but that”gift” has cost him everything. Thanks to his relationship with her, he will lose his wife, a portion of our business (of which I own half), his home, half his money and possessions, and he won’t be seeing his children on a daily basis anymore. Plus he lost his dignity, integrity, and the respect of himself, his family, his friends, and someday his children. Doesn’t sound much like a gift if you ask me. So a word to the wise, if your husband knows this woman, take heed! She is not the sweet Christian lady she makes herself out to be. If she wants your boyfriend or husband, she has no qualms about going after what she wants, and she won’t care about you, your children, or the life you’ve spent years building.