It started in December of 2011, our son was 1 and a half and our marriage was not what it use to be. We had been together for 9 years before he decided to cheat on me, the company he works for sometimes has to use flagger and of course she was a flagger. I didn’t know who she was or that she worked with my husband, he always told me that they used only make flaggers. They started seeing each other that December it started out as just friends and then by mid January of 2012 it grew more serious. The man who use to text me every single day all day while he was at work and spend his lunch hour talking to me on the phone was now ignoring me and not being as intimate as he normally would be. He also started working later than usual..and would get so mad at me and give me the dirtiest looks like if I were a bug he would squish me. || I pretty well knew by April that he was having a full blown affair. I decide to download a spy wear on his phone that sends me every single photo, every single text and allowed me to listen to his phone conversations…. I found out that she was working with him every day and that she was also married and had a daughter, that her husband worked out of town weeks at time. I had seen the dirty pictures and read the dirty texts, seen where they had talked about having the best sex with each other on the nights that he had been”working” late, as well as my husband telling her that I was a 230 pound overweight b*tch that sits on my butt all day and did nothing but complain at him (all lies I can assure you, as I spent my days caring for our son and our home, paying bills and preparing his dinner). This broke my heart and I didn’t know what to do but I knew if I waited I would catch the right time to call him out. || Finally he had gotten a text from her asking him to meet her before work at a gas station with a truck stop so that they could have some hot exciting sex. That night I sent my son to my mothers and then went to bed, the next morning he leaves the house at 4:30am (usual time is 6:30am) that gave him 30 minutes to get there…ten minutes after he left I followed suit and watched my husband in his truck with this other woman!!! Did I pull them out and beat them like the dogs they are..no because I have a son to raise and I can’t do that in jail. Instead I waited and called her phone after they started work. All I got from them were lies upon lies about everything, when they finally broke it was her that admitted they had sex on more than one occasion and that my husband had said he was leaving me for her. When I asked him even though I had proof and she had told me he still lied said nothing had ever happened, even after I showed him the pics and the texts, and even after I showed him I had seen them together that morning he still lied. || I called a divorce lawyer because I know once a cheater always a cheater this is something me and him both have always agreed on…by Sunday with three days of begging, pleading and cry for me to stay I decided to work on our marriage…this December will be 12 years for us and we now have two sons. He has never explained why and absolutely refuses to tell me the truth or to even talk about his 6 month affair. She is still married and now has two daughters and continues to cheat on her husband when he leaves work, she also tries to contact me, saying she’s sorry that she hurt me and wants to get to know me…that’s never going to happen..so far my husband proves that he wants us to work, and I believe that he honestly does but him refusing to answer my questions makes it hard for me at times. I don’t really know where we will be in the future but hopeful it’s together.