My husband and I had a home in the country with a little less than an acre of land. I always encouraged him to invite his co-workers out for a cookout and a campfire. There was plenty of room for the children and adults to play yard games and have a lot of fun. Many times people would bring tents and camp in the yard which was terrific because then I did not worry about drinking and driving. Sharon was new to the company my husband, Shawn, worked at. She was a hard worker according to my husband and they seemed to get along. Of course I encouraged Shawn to invite Sharon and her son and daughter out to the house for one of our”get-togethers”. I met Sharon, her son, daughter and ex-husband. They seemed like nice people and I liked Sharon. She talked my ear off about work and the co-workers as well as some of the wives. Since it was a factory, she seemed paranoid about what people thought of her and that she was judged. I told her not to worry and that she was borrowing trouble. || One of the wives at the”get-together” in my yard told me that Sharon gave her a strange feeling and she didn’t trust her. I listened, but really felt that this person was worrying about nothing. I am a good judge of character, so I thought, and I was not worried. This woman worried that Sharon seemed to drink a lot, and I guess it seemed that she did, however, she stayed in a tent, didn’t drive and who am I to judge. || Not being a jealous person, I did not think twice when she started working on the same machine as my husband. He was thrilled that a person that was a great worker was on his machine working with him. It seemed to reduce his stress. I was happy that he was happy. || Shawn started drinking more after work and told me that he was spending time with a male co-worker. I had no reason not to believe him. I would call Shawn when I woke up and he was not home yet, and he answered and seemed fine. He worked 2nd shift and couldn’t fall right to sleep after work and needed”wind-down” time. A beer or two was not going to kill him. This went from one or two nights a week to 5 nights a week. Needless to say, there was tension. || After work there was a gym close to work in which Sharon worked out at. Shawn thought he would go with and try to get back in shape. I applauded his efforts and supported him. This is when his truck started to be locked all the time when previously he never locked his truck. While working in the driveway I noticed a strange gym bag in his truck and asked him about it. I was told Sharon left it in there after the gym. Funny, that bag was in there from that day on. || One Saturday, Shawn went to a work dart tournament. He left at about 9 AM for this tournament after he worked the night before and did not get home until 2 AM. Needless to say, I expressed my concern and did not think it was a great idea. He would hear nothing of that. He went and I heard nothing from him. Calling him at 1 PM, I was told he was fine. At 5 PM I called again and expressed a lot of concern. He told me he was fine and would be coming home soon. After midnight I received a call from Shawn. He was arrested for drunk driving and Sharon was in the vehicle. Not only was she in the vehicle but she had open intoxicants. I believe Shawn had 5 charges against him that evening. When I went to bail him out, I got yelled at and was told that I was overreacting to the situation. || There was never a moment that I felt at ease after that night. I asked him to sleep on the couch, which he did. Shawn had a daughter that is one year younger than my daughter. The girls were teenagers and knew what they heard and saw. Repeatedly the girls told me that Shawn was having”whispering” conversations on the phone and they thought it was odd. His phone was now password protected. || Sharon continually talked to me and acted like a friend at work functions and came to my home, pretending nothing was going on. I had nothing concrete to say there was something going on. I thought my husband was just drinking a lot and that was the problem. I never thought he would cheat. However, Sharon ran a lot and was quite fit, and wore tighter clothing and really was concerned about her appearance. I was not like that and never knew that my husband was interested in that type of woman. || Shawn had a 16 year old son which was diagnosed with Lymphoma during this time period. I took care of him when he was not in the hospital, and while I was doing that, Shawn and Sharon were running around behind my back. His son wants nothing to do with him to this day. || The night my girls came to me with heavy hearts and told me they KNEW Shawn was talking to Sharon and they heard him say that he loved her was the night my world crumbled. I had to face facts and my girls were in the middle of it. Shawn’s daughter told me about buying perfume for Sharon and she liked a particular brand. She always wore perfume and a LOT or perfume at that! || I had to leave when I saw what this was doing to my girls. They KNEW what was going on before I saw it and accepted it. I trusted him and her. She acted like my friend. It was not more than 2 weeks after I left and Sharon was living there. She is in my home, which the locks were changed on and I could not get the rest of my things out. She is enjoying things I owned before I met my husband. || Currently, I am saving money for a divorce because he won’t file. Friends of Shawns are telling me they do not socialize with him any more and I hear what is going on in his life. He has been suspended from work several times and usually it is due to him taking off work to spend time with Sharon, or going to court with her when her daughter accuses her of stealing her tax returns. They are inseparable and dress alike. || Currently he is telling his work that he is going through a terrible divorce and is depressed because of it, though no papers have been filed. Sharon went to see a Doc about her issues and now Shawn is seeing the same Doc who writes him notes so he can stay home from work. The house is in foreclosure and his daughter went to live with his first ex-wife. My girls were exposed to this garbage and that is what I regret the most. He was constantly on the phone with her when he was with his family. His choice was Sharon over his family and she did not seem to mind interrupting his family time with a phone call that lasted hours. Not to mention, I found out recently, he was giving her money quite often. Taking money from his family to keep her happy. || After all of this neither of them are admitting that anything is going on. They dress alike (seriously) and drive to work together, but nothing is going on. Shawn is a red-neck blue-collar guy that was never a jock but is now wearing pink Under Armour to match Sharon. But nothing is going on! || She can have him and if she would like I can bring her a box of my other used toys to enjoy and play with.