Husband and I were married for 13 years, in 1996. Everything I have to say here is from putting the trickle-truth I got from him over the last 2 years and her blunders about him and Melissa June Gribas. Around 2004, his financial and emotional abuse peaked and I sustained the marriage for the children’s sakes through my faith in God and hopes for positive change. In 2005, after he broke our CD account behind my back and took out over $7K, he wrote me a letter apologizing and in it had stated that there were women whom he has fantasized about from his last job. I felt it was much worse but with the demands of my job and the stress of keeping a roof over my children’s (and his) heads, I was unable to ever follow through with my suspicions…couldn’t afford it, because I was paying all of the bills while he was entertaining her with his paycheck. He had left his job at a cruise line in 2004 and started a business of his own on my credit. She was in the picture by then, in 2004, having given him her number saying she may have clients for his new small business in boat cleaning. She lived in Ft. Lauderdale around the time he started cleaning boats there, which was only a few months after he left that job. When she had secretly handed him her number, he told her he would call her but she isn’t to call him because if I ever found out, I would think they are having an affair. She told him that the reason I am so insecure about his fidelity is because I have another man but if he ever needs a shoulder to lean on she is always there. She left that employer in 2005. || I finally divorced him in 2009 because of the continued financial and emotional abuse and after I gave him 8 consecutive ultimatums spanning 4 years. I filed the divorce in July 2009 and it was final in October 2009, but the phone bills show that his phone contact with her was on a daily basis in the months of May and June 2009, prior to the filing of the divorce. Then throughout the whole time until October 2010. Theirs had been an 8+ year relationship, from the phone bills, it was on and off. He told me she had a boyfriend Peter, whom he spoke to, to reassure Peter that he was married and wasn’t a threat to their relationship. Peter didn’t know that all this time, my husband and her were in a secret relationship, hidden from me…she was his friend with benefits. He told me that she was planning a wedding with another man, her pilot boyfriend (her father’s friend), whom she later found out was already married because his wife called her as asked her who the hell she was. || In October 2010, heavily into texting as the phone bills showed, all hours of the night and early morning, they had a big fight and their relationship supposedly ended. Until I that time I had no idea about her existence in my life. During the divorce we were reconciling since May 2010. He said in October 2010, she offered him phone sex saying her legs were spread under the sheets with one leg dangling off the bed. But the mileage on my car said otherwise, that it was not just phone sex as they would have people believe. I saw a text from her to him sent at 5:15am on October 15, 2010 saying”I am here”. They both said she meant that she was at a vacation spot. He later told me she spent that time at her boss’ place on the Florida west coast, because she needed a break. There were 8K miles on my car while I was out of town in Orlando and she lives 50 minutes south of him. In addition, during the first marriage, he used to come home at 2:30 in the mornings after commuting from Palm Beach (his job) to Miami (our home) with her in between (in Ft. Lauderdale) even though he left work at 10p-12am. So there were link ups on his way home during all that time. A 1 hour and20 minute drive doesn’t equate to a 2 hour and 30 minute – 2hour and 45 minute arrival time home. During those years from 2004 – 2009, the only time my children and I saw my husband/their father, was on Saturdays and Sundays – 1.5 days a week. He was too busy with work and chasing after Gribas during the other 5.5 days. If I was lucky, we had sex for 15 minutes every month between 2004 and 2009. || He and her refuse to admit to the 8+ year affair that I know happened. They are trying to say they were just friends but as Dr. Shirley Glass’ book, Not Just Friends, shows, they weren’t. Even then, just friends do not conduct phone sex in which she is telling him she is wearing a teddy nor telling him the condition of her hot, wet vagina. || All the information I have, I have had to piece together from pulling teeth to get trickle-truth from him and the phone bills. She said in one conversation with him, I and a counselor, that not only did her uncle die in Barbados and she is just coming back from the funeral (like anyone cared) but that he”betrayed” her. She told me herself that she needed a shoulder to lean on and he was there, she told me men and women can be friends but she omitted the fact that married men and single women cannot be secret friends. So there it is, Melissa June Gribas is a homewrecker. She never stopped until she wrecked my first marriage right under my nose. She never stopped until she destroyed the marriage filling his head with her own adulterous thinking, accusing me of adultery when I never met her in my entire life. If only I had known I would have delivered his clothes and credit report to her house or job and recommended that she pay for the divorce, help him to rebuild his credit AGAIN, and help him to buy a car – since she wanted him so badly. Like a cancer, she never stopped until she ate away the very fiber of our marriage. She even had the nerve to threaten to sue me for harassment in December 2010, the very first time I asked her how long the adultery was going on for. This after she called him angry saying that his wife sent her an email and the phone bill shows the three 45 minute phone calls that took place that night so they could collaborate their story to explain why they were in each other’s lives for the past 7 years, 6 years of the first marriage and the entire divorce. || We remarried in May 2011 because he bombarded me with what the Bible had to say about marriage and divorce, by-passing completely what it had to say about adultery. In December 2010, after he told her he’s going back to his wife and children, she still sent him a text message at 6:35pm on Christmas Day (that’s called fishing) right after he stated his intentions to remarry me and take care of the children and I, to my sister and brother-in-law who asked him what his intentions were. Melissa was trying to find out if he was back with me and the children. Since then his behavior has gone back to being emotionally abusive, deleted her text and he had just finished telling . Because of the encrypted messages, calendar entries, notes, his advising her ahead of time, that I was going to call her HR department, group bbms etc I have seen on his phones over the last two years (that’s called taking their relationship underground) my offer still holds for the tech savvy Melissa.