I was seeing the same man of 8 years. Throughout our relationship he cheated five times I kept forgiving him which yes I know I am truly the idiot. Our relationship had so many speed bumps. We had three boys together although my most recent son did not make it. There was an extreme amount of stress while I was pregnant. Joe stopped acting like his normal self always had his phone smiling at it. Turns out “Dan” in his phone was really a Danielle and he had been taking her to work every day with him going in oh his days off. Then he takes her to the movies three days after our son died. I still have yet to watch bridesmaids even seeing the dvd case makes me sick in the store. We got past well at least I tried…. After my son had been gone for a year I would have nightmares and wake up yelling at Joseph and I felt so angry I blamed him for my son’s loss. We kept holding on to our pieces of what relationship we had left. The fighting continued. It wasn’t until I see how my children were being affected that I told him we needed a break. || The break up was extremely hard on my family to the point my 6 year old is in counseling now. After two months Joseph and I had worked on a lot of our problems and started seeing each other again regularly doing family things again with the boys, lots of dinners and him sleeping over. We had both agreed we were going to get counseling to help through our anger so we had a good environment for our kids. After Joseph and I had a long discussion and took the boys to the park where we told our children we were going to be working on our relationship so we can make a better home for them. Of course that’s all they had talked about was mommy and daddy being together again so this was like a dream come true to them. || Within four days after that Joe had become distant and I find out he had been talking to Elicia Travis of course they both said they was just friends. Elicia even reached out to me to prove her innocence and befriend me. I told her a lot of what me and Joe had been through and how we were just getting back together and she understood why I was so suspicious of them “being friends”. When joseph came to spend the night he had his niece and her four wheeler in his jeep they had been at Elicia’s riding her four wheeler until about 11:30 at night. So the very next day I expressed to Elicia my concern and how my children and I couldn’t handle going through him cheating and leaving again especially since my kids were already aware of us making this relationship better. She said I had absolutely nothing to worry about. Well the very next day Joe and I had plans with the kids when he got off work he never showed up left the boys and I waiting and avoided all our phone calls. I found out Elicia had taken him to a bar. So right then he ditched us for her. || I had a gut feeling. Of course Elicia said she had no idea we had plans and that he left even his kids waiting. I told her how much I was worried and she invited me to her house to clear things up that nothing was going on. I told her personal stuff about the agreement Joe and I had come to and how her being a mother herself should understand why I was so livid when my kids were so disappointed. She pretended to be my friend and care and understand and pretend she didn’t know he had plans with us. Elicia kept saying she was going to help me and to give her the chance to prove they are only friends…. So Joseph explained how it was miscommunication between him and how he would be over the next day I didn’t tell my kids he was coming this time just in case the same thing happened as it did the day before. Guess what it did! He went to her house instead of showing up again. Elicia claimed she had no idea he was even coming I said well I told you earlier he had plans with us so as his friend and as a mother why not tell Joe to do the right thing. She claimed she spoke with him. I expressed to her again how concerned I was because Joe only started acting different when he started talking to her. She apologized and again swore they were just friends and even invited me over while he was there. I didn’t go Joe just came over later and we talked on the porch. He told me nothing was going on and reassured me everything was ok that he loved me and he still had every intention of making life better between us. I told them both what a burden it was them hanging out the time and he said not to worry he only loved me. He stayed over and I figured I was just being paranoid because he had cheated before. || Two days later Joe is telling me if I loved him I wouldn’t be trying to sleep with everyone. I had no idea what he was talking about and told him I have not tried or been with anyone but you. He told me he didn’t know who to believe any more me or Elicia when I asked Elicia what he was talking about she had NO idea. HA turns out She was telling him I was trying to get with her. When confront about it she denied it and said lets go confront Joe right now I am trying to help you. I told her there is no need to confront Joe he already told me you said that and all the pieces came together. Then Joe goes on to tell me I don’t love him if I was trying to get with someone else which made no sense because he had cheated before. But I told him over and over it was not true but he believed her and doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. || I honestly thought Joe was just making that up that I tried to sleep with her as an excuse and she never really said it. Now they are together ever yday and when I posted her on your fb page last night as a home wrecker she admitted it on her page what she had been denying saying she is not a home wrecker and I was just mad I didn’t sleep with her. I was stunned this woman played me as she was so caring and trying to help me and Joe, only to be in his ear with lies tearing us apart. If that isn’t a home wrecker I don’t know what is. She played me like a fool and went to the extreme of befriending me to get to Joe. It hurts a lot to think I was willing to give him a chance he didn’t deserve for our family to be whole again and for her to gain his trust and use it against him like that is so sad.