This”50 year old teenager” knows my husband through her son. For the past couple of years the communication in my marriage was particularly bad, leaving my husband feeling that he could not share things with me and leaving me feeling like nothing I was doing was going to be enough to fix things. He happened to help this friend of a friend (since the only man in her home is her dead beat adult son). He talked about things that were bothering him at the time and this ended up being the start of a months long private relationship. He would call or text her, sit in her car with her (so she could kill herself with smoking). Her number was saved under a mans name. The way I found out was when I was trying to upload videos of our child’s sporting events to a website on the way home one night. The videos were on his phone and when I went to select a video it took me to the phone clipboard and there was s picture of her and also some stupid pic that she forwarded from Pinterest or one of the other many sites she is constantly on. || When she isn’t busy being a maid she is sitting in front of her computer. Apparently this made her think that she knows all there is to know about keeping a relationship and also that she was in any position to judge me, because when I confronted her about this and accused her of a physical relationship with him she laughed at me and told me that I was the one who ruined my marriage when I (she then repeated things she should never know and for which I had been”forgiven”). She said that their connection was an emotional one and that everything isn’t about being physical. (I now know that she is completely insecure about herself and has to have constant reassurance from men-any men). She gave me tips on getting along with members of his family as if she could possibly know what that has been like. Most of that family has treated me as an outsider my entire marriage. She then said that if I had been better then he wouldn’t have strayed. I actually responded by saying”you’re right, I should have bowed out long ago”. Her response was”?truth hurts don’t it? Merry Christmas”. Just like a true homewrecker. I said that if course it hurts but I could never take such pleasure in destroying a family as she obviously does. I then blocked any contact because I am not a wanna-be teenager and don’t care to continue the with someone like her who isn’t even worth my thoughts. I know a lot more about her now and if I had the things she does in my past I sure wouldn’t be pointing out the mistakes of others. || By looking at her social media sites it is obvious that the only love she has ever experienced is in her fantasies. Clearly she dreams of a”real man” who sweeps her off her feet and gives her a dream wedding. She also clearly has no idea what living with the one you love and raising a family is really like or what it takes. I guess nobody told her that dream men aren’t the kind who are ALREADY MARRIED, even if they are going through the”worse” part of”for better or worse”. || He talked about things only I should have had the right to share. I have done things I have needed forgiveness for and while he was telling me he did forgive he was really just taking his hard feelings and going to her to have someone listen since it was easier than letting his guard down with me long enough to give me the chance to communicate better. I had offered to leave several times if I had caused more damage than what he could forgive and I was told over and again that he wanted me and still loves me the same as always. I could feel that something was wrong, missing, but every time I asked it was denied. Shame on him for betraying me in this way and for not having any taste at all in who he chose to give his time to. In no universe is this the kind of woman he could ever be with. She has never kept a man happy for any length of time, lives off the government in subsidized housing with no aspirations of doing anything with herself. She smokes, and she is unattractive except for the hair she keeps down to her butt to hide her overall unattractiveness. As soon as he saw the reality of what damage this communication was doing to his marriage there was no hesitation in dropping her as a”friend”. We are still going to have a tough road ahead re-establishing trust and working on communication but if anything this has made both of us wake up to the fact that we don’t want to ruin our relationship for anyone. So if I have to trade a few months of him degrading himself by having an emotional connection with someone like her in order to have him finally see what was in front of him the whole time I will take it. Of course I wish it never happened and Shame on her for coddling him and stroking his ego and helping him draw further from his family. I feel sorry for someone like her-she will never be nothing but a booty call for her long distance”boyfriend” and won’t ever know what it is like to truly love someone and want to share your life, body, and soul with them. I will be just fine.