Apparently the affair started in March. Christie Whitford, the homewrecker, seduced my husband with her hideous face and narcissistic masks that she wears. || She was married as well, so not only did she destroy me and our children, she also destroyed her own husband. || Christie and my husband spent two months meeting secretly. They also created secret email accounts so they could message each other. Then they ended up texting all the time, as well; on the smart phone that I gave him for Christmas last year, so I’m happy that came into good use for him. || The morning I found out, he had left his Facebook open on our computer and I saw messages between him and woman named Alysen. He had given Alysen his cell number in the messages and I assumed an affair was starting with her. || When I confronted him, he hid his cell phone from me and wouldn’t answer anything. He told me that morning that he had not had sex with anyone else since the day we had met. Turns out those words were true; but he walked out on his family that day and while we were all crying he went and f***ed her on the side of the road. Twice. || He came home the next day. Told me how much he loved me and that he wanted to make it work. He would not tell me her name or how he knew her. He was protecting her. || We spent the next week discussing how much we had missed each other and that were things that we needed to work on. All the while, he was still talking to her. They met again exactly one week after the first sexual rendezvous and f***ed twice more. In her shitty little apartment where she lives with her husband. || At this point, I still had no idea that their relationship was sexual. I was doing what I could to start working on the problems in our marriage, including a more frequent sex life. || Fast forward a month. I now know her first name, and that she worked with him. We were sitting in our yard, by our firepit, with my 21 year old daughter. He let it out right then, in front of my daughter that he had slept with her. BUT ONLY ONCE!! || The lies continued for a month after that. I got lies from my husband. I got lies from the homewrecker. And her dumbass husband didn’t even have a clue. I changed that. I printed out the cruel emails that she had been sending to me and went to their house and handed them to him. || That night she emailed me some really classy things, like telling me that I should ask my husband what it felt like to cum inside her without a condom. She offered to let me f**k her husband if it would make me feel better. She stated that I was just angry because my husband found a”hot piece of ass and came back for more.” Yes, she is 40 and she is goth hideous, and a self-proclaimed hot piece of ass. || Fast forward another month. I went to the doctor to get tested for STD’s because my husband came clean that he, in fact, did not use a condom and that he had slept with her 4 times. I tested negative for STD’s, but I did test positive for an STI, a high-risk HPV that causes cervical cancer. So, I am packing around her sexually transmitted infection now, just waiting for my next tests to see if it has formed cancerous cells yet. || I mentioned earlier that Christie is a narcissist. Narcissist hate it when they lose a game that they are playing. And my husband wanted me, not her. So she started harassing him at work, until formal complaints were brought against her there. She started forming”friendships” with late teen and early twenty aged girls, and they became her Flying Monkeys. They would try to deliver messages to my husband from her. She would drive near my home, follow me in my car, relentlessly send me messages on Facebook from various accounts. She has stalked my husband, me, my children. We filed a stalking protective order and went to court. The female judge listened to what my husband had to say and then told him,”well, you have made a mess of things, haven’t you?” The judge denied the stalking order because she decided that he was the cause of the affair, and according to the emails we took as evidence, I could take care of myself. || OH! What a win for the narcissist! She started pushing even harder with her flying monkeys, spreading lies, rumors, and trying to make my husband lose his job. She kept stalking me, telling me that I was crazy, telling anyone that would listen that my husband was in love with her and he was only ignoring her and filing stalking orders because I was making him. The bitch would stalk our facebooks and started changing her profile pics and cover photo’s to match mine. Her obsession was growing, only it wasn’t being focused on my husband any more. It was me. || Because a narcissist hates to lose at anything, she is viewing me as an opponent, and that this is some war that she has to win. || It has been over seven months since the end of the affair (she is no longer working at my husbands place of work) and she will let some time pass in between her psychotic bullshit now, but it is still happening. I cannot block every single Facebook account in the world. || In March, her and her husband are moving across the country to Maine. So, women and men from Oregon to Maine, stay away from this one. She is truly a narcissist, and all she wants is to cause pain and destroy what she cannot have.