Many people have been cheated on. It’s rough no matter what. How about when it’s with your husband’s first wife, mother of your stepkids, whom you tried to help for five years to get into better housing and improve her life and the lives of her children? || My husband and I were married about five years. I found out recently that he was cheating on me with his ex wife that entire time. I did catch him once, but foolishly forgave him. Here is my story. || We got married in November of 2008. I got pregnant the next month with our first child. He had three boys from a previous marriage. I tried very hard to raise them properly, despite the negative influence of their mother, the home wrecker. || It’s typical of stepmoms and mom’s to be at odds, but in our case, I truly tried to befriend her. In July of 2009, when I was 7 months pregnant, I found pictures of her breasts on my husband’s phone. We separated for a while. He stopped talking to her, but it took about six months. When I called her out on it she told me I should stop stressing myself out so I wouldn’t lose my baby. || I took him back, thinking we’d have a fresh start with his sons and our son together. Through the years I heard rumors of the two of them spending time together (drinking and doing crack/cocaine together), but he always had an explanation and I wanted to believe him. We create our own reality. || I later found out that after our son was born, my husband was still spending time with his ex. I nearly died after giving birth. Weeks later I had to have an emergency hysterectomy, as I started bleeding out at home. For a while he was faithful and in the hospital with me. But later I discovered that while I was recuperating he was off at her house having sex. It continued while we were separated and then after we moved back in together. || A few years back, I learned to accept an apology I would never receive. I forgave her without her asking for it and we started spending time together and doing things with the kids. Sometimes she and I would go out dancing. We got along great and had a lot of fun. I began homeschooling her kids and my son. She trusted me to do this. We were close. || In July of 2013, she lost her housing. Husband and I had just bought a house that winter before and had an extra room. I suggested since we were sharing custody of the kids anyway, that it would benefit them to have their mother safe and happy in a home with us. She and I were friends by this point and hung out regularly. I thought we could make it work. She moved into one of our spare bedrooms on my 31st birthday. || It’s now coming up on my 32nd. I have left my husband after he hit me, but that is another story. As soon as I left the house, though, this woman, who had been through the same abuse I had and said I was her only true friend, moved into my bedroom with my husband. The first weekend my four year old son had to spend there he complained about her being in the bed he was used to his mom and dad sleeping in. He was very sad about it. || I am glad to be done with my ex (except when it comes to our son), but think the world should know about her. This is not the first married man she’s slept with. There’s also a police officer in Southbridge and god knows how many others. || In the end they both did me a favor. Who cheats on his pregnant wife with an ex you left years ago? They live in our house we bought together. I’d rather deal with the struggles I deal with now than the ones I had when I had to deal with them. || The kids have reverted to their old terrible behavior, or at least that’s what everyone who sees them (including the family doctor) tell me. This woman ruins homes, lives, and children. Keep her out of your life if you want peace.